Izzie's Third Law of Motion

Lex III: Actioni contrariam semper et æqualem esse reactionem: sive corporum duorum actiones in se mutuo semper esse æquales et in partes contrarias dirigi. Newton's third law applies to pairs of bodies. If a body A exerts a force on a body B, then body B exerts an equal and opposite force on body A.

Bothered in Buffalo sends me this query:

Mitzi, I could use your help. If you are finding that someone’s behavior is affecting you adversely, and you explain to them what is bothering you, why it is bothering you, and how they might do something different that would make you so much happier/calmer/less overwrought, and the result is that they either ignore you, or worse, expand on the behaviors that are causing you grief, what can/should you do?

Now, I know, the simple answer is to cease to have anything to do w/ that person. But what if you can’t cease without causing a major upheaval in every aspect of everything in your life?

Dear Bothered,

The universe is literal. When you take a vow to commit to another person, the universe hears, and binds you to that agreement. It is as if the two individuals are woven together as one. The universe doesn't question the process, as both individuals verbalized their commitment, and those words seal them together as a couple for all eternity. To untie that seal takes repair work, which is why it is of the utmost importance that both sides truly understand the enormity, and sanctity of the commitment in to which they are agreeing.
And with this gift, it is important to cherish those vows and to look at what needs to be done in order to reap the rewards of such a blessed coming together with a life partner. As I tell people I work with, unless you are a nun, or a monk, who has taken vows of celibacy and commitment to a higher power that doesn't occupy a physical body, then everyone wants to spend their life with their soulmate. It is just human nature. And both are based and blessed by the vows you make.

It is your word, and your word is all you have, as every action forward from the taking of those vows, and verbalizing your commitment, is to make that partner feel that heaven is here on earth with you. It is one of the laws of the universe.
As you sow, so shall you reap. Why not sow the best you can, and reap the most, as it is pure love, and who doesn't enjoy that feeling?!

Speaking of which, one day I was having a conversation, a couple hundred years ago, at a London pub, with my dear friend, Isaac (Izzie, to his friends). This was such a long time ago, and yet it feels like it was yesterday. Good conversations have a way of staying in one's memory, and that's a good thing, as our memories feed us whenever we feel the need to tap into them. But, I digress, sometimes I do that...
Anyway, Izzie had had relationship issues and was puzzled as to why his wife always reacted negatively to his not sharing his thoughts with her, but instead pouring them out into books. He felt like he didn't want to burden her with his what could be conceived of as "eccentric" ideas, and he didn't want to scare her off, so he brought his ideas into his profession and kept them on a mathematical level and thus not able to be translated into conversation. But, what was at the heart of the matter was that he was scared to share himself with her without thinking she might be troubled that someone was viewing the world on such a different plane.

So, one day I suggested to him to take a chance and tell her one of his ideas. A week later, we met at our pub again, and he told me a marvelous story. To his surprise, his wife loved talking to him about his views of the world. So, the next day he took another step toward her and she opened up and took another step toward him, and with each step, they came closer together as one. And, it was exhilarating . . . so much so that he came to the realization that in a committed relationship with one's soulmate, that for every negative action that happened, an equally negative response occurred from his partner, and with each bigger negative action, an equally negative response occurred.

But, and this was the untested piece, as he had never put out the effort, which was actually effortless in application, moving toward his partner and sharing himself was a positive action that caused an equally positive reaction. And, with each greater and greater act of love he directed toward his partner produced an even greater act of love in return.
He was exhilarated with this epiphany. For every action with your soulmate, the one who loves you unconditionally, creates an equally opposite, and balanced reaction of equal bliss. The sign of infinity bears this out.


I told him, Izzie, that's a great discovery you made. You ought to write that down. Eventually this became to be known as Isaac Newton's third law of motion, discovered by him when he realized the magic of unconditional love as one of the gifts of a true partnership. He listened to Mitzi, and he learned. I am so proud of such a good mensch.

So, to answer your question - go back to him in your truth. He will respond in his truth, and the vibration of that action, like a perfectly struck tuning fork, will vibrate and cause a greater and greater output of love, and heal the pain that created the wedge between you.

Don't just take Mitzi's word for it. It's one of the laws of motion in the universe. You can only love if you have love to give. That starts with self love, and releasing anger. Nothing is accomplished by anger. So, don't be afraid to try again, and not in anger.

Always come with love to the table.

Truth is love.

These things I know...cause Mitzi Knows Best.

Today's Enigma Wrapped in a Pita Sandwich

"Sleepy in Scarsdale" writes - Dear Mitzi: how is it that I can always concentrate on the thing that is not most important at this moment – and that which is most important makes me unbearably sleepy?

Bubbeleh, so happy to take your question. Let Mitzi get into a trance state and see what she has for you. Well, it looks like you had a past life where you were given a list of Herculean tasks that when they were to be finished, you would be drawn and quartered. If you didn't complete each individual task, in a specified period, and in a certain order, a finger would be cut off. What a conundrum! When the body experiences such a high level of stress, it responds by either shooting off adrenaline, for a power surge, or melatonin, to lull the body to sleep, perchance to dream (if I can quote my old buddy, and former client, Willy, the Bard). Past lives usually come to the forefront when we are ready to release the pain that the body experienced in that past life in order to retrieve the knowledge that was gained from that lifetime. You were made privy to some truths about a powerful organization that controlled your village, and the group feared being discovered for their evil ways if you were given the chance to tell others about their deception. They could not take the chance of losing their vice grip, and thus started a smear campaign against you so that no one would believe your incriminating allegations. The corrupt group had bought off the judge, and thus you were convicted on a trumped up charge and sentenced with the nasty punishment mentioned above. While drawn and quartered, you died an honest soul who wanted to bring down those who were dishonest. You were a brave soul whose body died in much pain. What the spirits are telling me for you in the present, is that what you perceive as the important task, is really a marker telling you to follow your heart, and instead to take the time to speak your truth, no matter what the consequence.

It may take awhile for your head to wrap itself around this information, but your body has already begun the process of releasing the pain from the prior memories. Be sure to take a bath in epsom salt, and be gentle with yourself. All is good. This I know...as... Mitzi Knows Best.

Being of Service and the Service of Being

So many changes have happened while I have been off doing my inner work. It is wonderful to see that there is a sea change happening with those leading our government. Obama will herald in a true time of compassion. Hand in hand, not to be contrarian, but what the world needed right now was a recession. Like an ebb tide, every so often, we all need to take time to go within and find answers from our inner world. What is inside always gets reflected outside. It is of the utmost importance for every being to slow down in order to reclaim the rhythm of his or her breath.

Actually, I don't think I would have been able to appear if this sea change and global financial recession wasn't going to happen. The wave would have been longer, and the answers further out. And, with the news that the First Family will be joined by a dog, gives me even greater hope. Dogs are our lifeline to the Divine Source. I noticed today that every picture of Ted Kennedy has him surrounded by his dogs. They are his guides and healers as he goes through the ordeal of evaluating his life and his legacy.

The sea change is not about politics. It is the permission on the planet to allow for compassion and forgiveness to be the first line of action, rather than anger and destruction of perceived enemies. His Holiness, the XIVth Dalai Lama, says we are all the same. I love that simple monk. Many of his teachings helped lead me during my retreat. They continue to help guide me. One of the most important lesson from my meditative safe haven is that old saying, "wherever you go, there you are." In order to truly learn from what one has found in an internal "recession", it is just as important to bring that forth when one returns to being a beneficial member of a community, or society. Beneficial comes from the root, benefice, which means service and kindness. (That is why service dogs are some of our greatest heroes!)

Thus, the greatest achievement one can do for society is to be of service. Therefore, Mitzi is back and raring to guide those in search of the answers that have eluded them. Sometimes our inner work requires that little nudge from an outside source. Like a treasure hunt, think of these answers as clues along your path.

Who is Mitzi?, you ask. I have been on this glorious Mother Earth for many centuries (thank god for psyllium and steam rooms!). I have been the psychic for many members of royalty, celebrities, and even a few high members of the clergy. I never sugar coat, and always speak the truth. That is my gift, a blessing, and at times, a curse. My humor has saved me a few times from having my head chopped off, but fortunately those situations were rare, and I would rather not dwell on them. I am here to take your personal questions, whether they be about relationships, finances, body issues, addictions, past lives, numerology, any area for which you would like some enlightenment, or merely affirmation. You can email your questions to my loyal and cute scribe, Sadie, at stef@betterthantherapy.com, or add them as comments to the blog.

To be, is to serve. To serve, is to be.

Don't be afraid. It's Mitzi. And, as we all know... Mitzi Knows Best!

Mitzi Here!

It's soooo good to be back. I have been away on a journey way up in the hills of Tibet. I haven't spoken to anyone in almost 15 years. Oy, I am back and ready to be of service.

As I ask for a blessing on this site by the great Ganesha, I am your humble servant and pray that I keep you happy and pleased.

To life, to life, l'chaim...

xx